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JavierModeratoryes, I also used to struggle a lot more when speaking on the phone and when saying my name, and I also used those affirmations. They are really helpful! We shouldn’t underestimate the power of auto-suggestions and self-hypnosis!
JavierModeratorHi Gábor,
Tasneem is very right. This program requires a lot of discipline and patience. I was a severe stutterer (you can actually find my coaching sessions with Lee when I was a PWS in the video library of this website and check it yourself), and I managed to become a PWSS in around 8 months. 8 months of reading aloud 1h/day, of doing auto-suggestions/self-hypnosis, of using the Crutches. I didn’t give up. And now I am a much more determined, patient, hard-working person. But thanks to mind training I have become a much more loving person. I am able to control what goes on in my mind. I am able to reject all the negativity that used to be in my mind, and make sure it never returns. I know how to reject it. And if it wasn’t for this program (and therefore stuttering), I strongly doubt I would be like this. Yes, it is true that I have suffered a lot during my childhood and teens, and I can’t even wish that to my worst enemy, but on the other hand I’m grateful for having these tools and becoming the person I am today.It took me 2 years to realise about this. It is not easy, and you don’t usually come to this conclusion very quickly, as you can see. But I agree with Lee’s affirmation: stuttering can actually be a blessing.
JavierModeratorBy the way, the next time I am the speaker on the SAM meetings, I’ll be speaking about this 🙂
September 28, 2020 at 7:44 am in reply to: Reading aloud is not real conversation….sorry to say!! #27812JavierModeratorI used to read aloud and do my auto-suggestions sitting infront of a mirror. It more or less gave me the feeling of speaking to somebody, FLUENTLY.
JavierModeratorI like that one, Virkam!
One of my favourite ones, regarding my speech, is “every day I will plan less and less words”.
Another one I always use is “today I’m going to make a happy day”.JavierModeratorWhispering is a really good one, especially when we’re really nervous (speaking softer also works). Some time ago, when I was really close to becoming a PWSS, I had a terrible sore throat that lasted around a month. During that month all I could do is whisper. And I didn’t have a single bad incident during that time. So it does work! And you can always say that you have a sore throat.
The other alternative is to whisper the first syllable of a word. It is really similar to Crutch 1.JavierModeratorhi again Erica. It’s normal to have those fears. Everybody here has been stuttering for most of their lifes, so getting rid of such a habit is not easy, but trust me, it can be done. It’s a matter of time. Have you read Doug’s Success Story? That’s an amazing one! I’m sure it will motivate you. Here’s the link:
You can see some of his videos in the video library. On the home page, if you scroll down a bit you will find a very short video of him too, on the part where we talk about the video library. The title of the video is: “How speech coaching videos help you stop stuttering”.
I’m sure about one thing: you can stop stuttering too. There is no reason to believe that you can’t. All you need is to believe that you can do it, and follow our program. Want to bet something? ; )
JavierModeratoryeah, I remember that session! Enjoy the online course, and you know where to find me in case you need it (you also have my email address).
JavierModeratorHi Vikram!
Probably my 3 favourite ones are Crutches 4 (inserting sounds or introductory words), word linkage (#10) and Speaking like a King (#11). Every week I focus on a Crutch I don’t use too much, to avoid forgetting them. So what I do is to write in my agenda, on every page (day) of that week, for example (Crutch 8: modulation), and try to use that Crutch more. The following week I’d do the same with another one. The one I’m focusing on this week is #12, Smiling.Which are your favourite ones?
JavierModeratorHi Gábor! Welcome to World Stop Stuttering Association. It’s great to have you here. I also used to grimmace and have those blocks you mentioned, some of them lasting for several seconds. The good news is thanks to Lee’s method, I stopped stuttering, in all situations. You can also do it!
Have you taken the online course? It’s fantastic. It makes the book so much easier to understand. Of course, watching videos of the coaching sessions is also very helpful. I used to watch at least one per day. You can use a lot of filters and watch the most suitable videos for you (for example, if want to watch videos that explain, for example, Crutch 1, or that explain Self-hypnosis, or that focus on giving presentations, job interviews, etc).
There’s also a lot of very useful stuff on the Blog and this Forum. So feel free to ask us anything!!
Be sure of one thing. More than a hundred people have posted a Success Story (and therefore become PWSS). If they have done it, you can also do it!JavierModeratorHi Erica!! Welcome to World Stop Stuttering Association. You’ve come to the right place. If you’ve taken a look at the website, read Lee’s “Stuttering & Anxiety Self-cures” (and taken the online course) and seen the videos of the coaching sessions, the Success Stories and the videos of the Speech Club meetings we have every Saturday, you will surely have noticed that a lot of people have stopped stuttering, some of them being very severe cases. So there is no reason to think that you can’t do it. If +100 people have become People Who Stopped Stuttering (PWSS), so can you.
My name is Javier, I live in Madrid (Spain), I am a PWSS (used to be a severe stutterer) and one of the Certified Speech Coaches here. Here’s the link to my Success Story, in case you’re curious: https://speechanxietyanonymous.org/pwss/javier-madrid-spain/.
Feel free to ask us anything. Be sure of one thing, if you follow our method, your stuttering days are counted!!
JavierModeratorHi Adam!
The magic of the Crutches, and why they make our speech sound not only fluent, but NORMAL (and not robotic or unnatural, like some of the methods that other speech therapists and programs teach) is that fluent people use them too, without noticing in most cases.
In any event, the ones who’ve read your Success Story, we know that you’ve gone though a lot, and that your speech journey hasn’t been easy at all, and it is great to see you so happy and simling when you come to our SpeechAnxietyMasters Meetings on Saturdays.
Have a great day!!JavierModeratorHi Ali,
since you are a stutterer/PWS, you should definitely go for the “Stuttering” course. And it is also the most complete program, check here: https://worldstopstuttering.org/signup/The “Speech Anxiety” course is aimed at those who don’t stutter, but are terrified of speaking in certain situations (public speaking, groups of people, strangers…). This course should also be considered our next step as People Who Stopped Stuttering (PWSS). Becoming a PWSS means that we know how to avoid appearing stuttering, but that doesn’t mean that the fears have disappeared. You will conquer fears too, but it takes time, just like it takes time to stop stuttering.
If you have any other questions or comments, please do let us know 🙂
JavierModeratorHi Ali! Welcome to WSSA! If you want to stop stuttering and actually learn to enjoy speaking, no matter the situation, you’ve come to the right place. My name is Javier, I live in Madrid (Spain), I’m a PWSS and a Certified Speech Coach, just like Prathusha. I used to be a severe PWS, so if I’ve been able to do it, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t. It’s a matter of patience and determination.
I strongly recommend you to do the online course about Lee’s Stuttering book. Read the book and at the same time do the online course about the Section(s) you’ve just read. This will help you understand everything much better.
You can also take a look at the Blog (on the Community Section of this website). There’s plenty of useful information and advice, just like here.
And of course, watch the coaching videos (you can filter them, so if you want to watch one focused on a specific Crutch, or Autosuggestions, or other things, you can do so). This should help you a great deal.
And of course, we will be happy to coach you. This will make you stop stuttering much faster, if you follow our advice, of course. Coaches don’t cure anybody, you do. We just give you instructions, but you have to follow them.
Feel free to ask us anything! We’ll be glad to help you any way we can.September 10, 2020 at 11:10 am in reply to: How do you get used to speaking and sounding completely different? #27713JavierModeratorHi Taz! Great question!!
Well I used to stutter quite heavily, and I hated it. I watched videos of Lee coaching other people and explaining to him how to use the Crutches, and how they made that person speak fluently and immedaitely, so I wanted to do the same thing. I wanted to stop stuttering, and I didn’t care if if felt weird. I knew they mde me speak the way I wanted.
It’s the same as when we want to learn a new skill. It will always feel weird at the beginning, until we become good at it, and then it becomes second nature to us.If you’re beginning to use the Crutches, don’t feel discouraged for feeling this way. Continue practicing!! You just need to practice until you get better at it. Check that when you use them, you feel better, more relaxed, less anxious. That’s the strange feeling we’re talking about. You’ll get to love it, and to love using the Crutches. I use them even when I don’t need them, they make me feel more relaxed, in control, more confident.
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