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September 7, 2020 at 8:22 am in reply to: What is the hugest compliment you have received after self-curing? #27687
JavierModeratorHi Adam,
I think that when we’re so passionate that we end up stuttering is because we began to get too anxious, to speak too fast, not pausing… In other words, not using Crutches while accumulating anxiety, and that’s a problem, because, as you said, we might stutter.
We can be extremely passionate and speak slowly, insterting pauses every few words, modulating our voice, smiling. And when we do this, we don’t accumulate anxiety. At least that’s the way I see it.
And about the lat thing you said on your last comment… I have another way of seeing it. Of course we could relapse and stutter, but the difference between now and before we knew about this program is that now we know the tools to avoid stuttering. It is our choice to use those tools or not.JavierModeratorFantastic! Please do keep us posted with your progress!!
JavierModeratorHi John! My name is Javier and I’m a PWSS and one of the certified coaches here. Welcome to WSSA!! I’m glad to hear that the book is helping you. The videos (both the online course and the coaching sessions) are very helpful. I watched at least one per day when I was a PWS, and it really helped me understand things more clearly.
Keep on working on your speech! More than a hundred people (that we know of) have managed to stop stuttering, some of them being severe PWS (yours truly), so there is no reason to believe you can’t.I would also recommend you to take a look at the Blog section of this website, there’s a lot of useful stuff too. And of course, feel free to ask us any questions or post any comments here. There might be a lot of people who have the same questions that you do, so you’ll also be helping them.
This Saturday’s (5th of September) SpeechAnxietyMasters Meeting (go to the “Community” Section) the topic will be “Stump the Experts ; Question Those Who Beat It”. Feel free to join us and ask questions, make comments, meet new people… We will celebrate more of these “question the experts” meetings, like once a month. Normally on these meetings we have a speaker (could be a coach or anybody who volunteers), and they will give a speech about any subject they want (normally it’s related to speech) and then we can ask questions, comments… It’s also a great way of meeting new people and getting rid of the fears to speaking in public and to groups of people.
September 2, 2020 at 9:03 am in reply to: Hello everyone, I am Ruz along with a testimonial about Lee’s methods… #27667JavierModeratorHi Ruz,
I have also been a severe stutterer, although not a shut-down blocker. Thanks to Lee, I became a PWSS last year, and I am a much happier person, a completely different person. I only wish I had met Lee earlier. I will always be grateful to him (and to my friend who recommended me his book) and to WSSA for everything they’re doing for me and the rest of the stuttering community. It’s simply amazing.JavierModeratorHi Amit. Thanks for this message! This is the reason why we do what we do. As you said, now you know the tools to speak fluently, permanently. Your next battle is against fears. Fighting fears is easier than fighting stutters, but it takes longer to win the battle, but I’m 100% you’ll win it, and you’ll learn to love to speak in ALL venues. I strongly recommend you to attend to our weekly SpeechAnxietyMasters Club meetings (https://worldstopstuttering.org/speech-club/), because this is the perfect place to fight fears of speaking to groups of people, and learn to have fun when speaking infront of an audience. Of course, you can simply attend as a listener, no problem with that. And another great thing about this speech club is that you meet many other PWS and PWSS from all over the world.
August 31, 2020 at 8:45 am in reply to: Sounding “dramatic” while using “extreme pronunciation” #27655JavierModeratorhahahah, that’s awesome, Adam. I truly believe that this helps us to speak fluently. When we do it, we’re focusing on that precisely, and we’re not focusing on our stutter-fears.
JavierModeratorThe idea is to avoid stuttering, and this is a way of doing it. We shouldn’t feel bad for doing it. We avoided a bad incident, appearing speech disabled. that’s a success. Most likely, in the past we would have stuttered on that word, but not now.. Of course, the more we master the Crutches, the better we get at using them, the more direct we will become.
JavierModeratorHi Adam! Some people simply prefer to speak on the phone rather than texting (it can save a lot of time), and I’m sure that they weren’t thinking about what you said when they called you.
When I was really close to becoming a PWSS, a friend of mine that I hand’t seen in ages invited me to his house and have a beer. We talked for hours, and I didn’t sutter during that time. The last time we saw each other was months ago (when I stuttered severely). Do you think he praised my speech, or even commented on it? No. I’m sure he didn’t even realise it. He didn’t remember the way I spoke. People have more important things on their mind. That’s what I learnt that day.By the way, I sometimes prefer to make a phone call rather than texting for 2 reasons: it saves time, and I also enjoy hearing the voice of the other person.
JavierModeratorHi Adam,
from my experience, when I focus on my ideas (not words), on being passionate, on being more expressive, I never stutter. That’s the ultimate goal I think. To speak wthout planning our words. If we’re able to do it, and we make it a habit, we will be able to speak fluently without the need of Crutches, because they will have become second nature to us.JavierModeratorHi Shubham! that’s a wonderful message that you wrote. I’ve watched most of your coaching sessions, and you’ve improved a lot. Congratulations for becoming a PWSS too. I still can’t believe that there a lot of PWS who don’t accept the fact that they can stop stuttering, that there is a “cure”, or call it how you want it, you can stop stuttering. More than a hundred people have made it. We’re living proof of this. Sadly, even speech therapists say that there is no solution, and that their methods might mitigate this speech problem, that’s all. We’re here to prove them wrong.
JavierModeratorHi Adam! That’s fantastic! The faact that nobody identifies us as PWS is amazing. Truely umbelievable. Who would hve thought that we could stop stuttering? If 2 years ago or so you had told me that I would become a PWSS, nd that I would be able to speak to a group of around 20 people (the SpeechAnxietyMasters meetings on Saturdays), I would think that you’re nuts. But here I am 🙂 and I’ve never been happier.
We can stop stuttering, as long as we believe we can do it, and we follow what Lee Lovett’s book and the coaches say. It will require patience and determination, but it is possible!JavierModeratorI fully agree with Tasneem. You see a huge change in their mood when that happens. And it is really satisfactory for us, the coaches.
JavierModeratorHi Vikram, from my experience, whenever I have faced an uncomfortable speaking situation, I try to focus 100% on the Crutches. If I succeed, the next time I face the same or a similar situation, I find it much easier to avoid stutters. And after practicing for a while, I have found myself using the Crutches automatically.
It’s a matter of practice.
In any event, I’ve heard you speak several times at the Speechmasters Club meetings, and you sound great!JavierModeratorMirror practice is really helpful. I did that quite a lot, practicing ways of saying my own name, and it has surely helped me.
JavierModeratorExactly! Very well explained Tasneem. Just a few weeks or months and your life will change completely.
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