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  • in reply to: have you heard of this therapy ? #30867
    Javier
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    Hi Sree,
    I did hear about this program some time ago. My knowledge about this program is limited, as I didn’t take it the program personally. From what I’ve been able to read from this website, it seems that this program focuses only on managing our speech so that you talk fluently. I ignore if they do anything about the fears of stuttering, the anxiety and the rest of negative thoughts that all stutterers have.
    The way we see it, dysfluency is just the tip of the iceberg. Stuttering is much more than that. It is a problem that affects the whole person.
    In any case, all we want is to help PWS achieve fluency and live happy lives. And we hope there are other programs out there that share our goals.
    We support all legal and moral issues that work, but this Forum will focus only on The Lovett Method.

    in reply to: Long blocks/pauses at the beginning of sentences #30864
    Javier
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    Hi Sree,
    I disagree with you. Practicing alone does help. It’s like the training a proffesional basketball player does. The proffessional NBA player, does train every day, even alone, so that he makes sure he will be able to do it too when playing against other teams.
    This is not the only way to practice with the Crutches. Another excellent way to master the Crutches is to use them too WHEN NOT NEEDED in low pressured situations. Let’s say that in your case a low pressured situation is talking to your partner, or your family, for example. Well, use these speaking situations to practice! Use the Crutches here and there, randomly, on some of your words. You will see how well you can speak if you use Crutches 7-12 as your speaking style (Crutches 8-modulation, 9 and 10 are my personal favourites). Use them as much as possible. And then use Crutches 1-6 on random words. So, start some of your sentences with a sound (C-4), drop the first letter of some of your words, etc.
    The more you do it, the easier it will get, EVEN IN HIGH PRESSURED SITUATIONS.
    But definitely the best approach for high pressured situations is what we call the “Emergency Speech Plan” (read Section 18.8 of “How To Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking” to know more).
    I hope you find this helpful, Sree.

    in reply to: Any videos for Auto Suggestions? #30863
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hi Sree!
    Some time ago I made this video explaining how I give myself the auto-suggestion treatments: https://vimeo.com/529828997/b7b1162b63
    I hope it helps

    in reply to: Hello From San Francisco #30823
    Javier
    Moderator

    hi again Sree,
    the Crutch Practice Sessions have helped many of the PWS that I’ve coached.
    Not being able to use the Crutches when under pressure it is a very common problem. The way to solve it is to use the Crutches even when not needed. So, especially in high-pressured situations, start using the Crutches from the beginning.
    The Emergency Speech Plan should help you a great deal too. This concept appears in Section 18.8 of Lee’s latest book, “How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking”.
    Check some of the videos of coaching sessions where we practice this: https://speechanxiety.com/videos/?filter_video_tag=emergency-speech-plan

    in reply to: Hello From San Francisco #30820
    Javier
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    Hi Sree! Welcome to SAC! Actually, a lot of people have seen their speech get worse since the pandemic started. Have you finished reading Lee’s book already? And have you started viewing the video lessons of the book and the Crutch Mastery series course?
    Try to come to some of our Crutch Practice sessions! We have sessions almost every day of the week! I’d also recommend you to come to the SAM meetings (Saturdays at 12h NY time). You will meet with other PWS and PWSS, listen to their stories, learn what helped them the most, you can ask them questions, interact with them, etc. You can learn a lot and these meetings are incredibly motivating too. It’d be great to see you there this Saturday!

    in reply to: Hello from Croatia! I hope to see you here next summer:) #30741
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hi Tino,
    Exactly. We’re in the time zone, as I am also 6h ahead of NY. So, yes, 12h NY time = 18h your time. To make sure, I always check it on google by typing “time difference NY Madrid”, or whatever city/state/country I want to check. You can do the same with your hometown, just to be sure.

    I hope you enjoy the Crutch Practice sessions and the Crutch Mastery Course!

    Keep us posted with your progress.

    in reply to: Hello from Hungary! #30734
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hey Gábor,
    it’s great to have you back and to hear such good news from you. Looking forward to seeing you at SAM (in case you don’t know, now the SAM meetings are at 12h NY time on the 1st and 3rd Saturday of each month).

    in reply to: Cannot stop planning words #30733
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hi again Tarek,
    we all have our favourite Crutches, and that’s fine, and normal too. But we must know them all, because, logically, the more alternatives we know, the more easily we will solve the problem. There will be situations in which modulation will be the best option, but there will be others in which C-9, or C-1, or any other Crutch might be easier to use there.
    Crutches 7-12 are more like “voices” or speaking styles, if that makes sense, and just like you said, they involve less thinking on words. C-10 and C-9 are very easy to learn too. To make sure you use C-9 properly, and without focusing on words, you simply need to make sure you feel the movements of your jaw and muscles of your face. Focus on that. When linking words, I make sure I leave no spaces or gaps between words. So words flow like a river, but I don’t focus on the words, I focus on not leaving gaps, on letting the air come out like a river.
    When speaking softly or whispering, I just focus on the tone and volume of my voice.
    Now, regarding C-2, immediacy is key. If you start to think of a synonym, it won’t work. So, you might need to practice this a bit. For me, C-4 has been the best for FFW. You simply start with a sound and then make sure you link it to the following words, and then use C-10.
    Having a coach to show you how to use the Crutches properly, and correct you if needed, will surely help you a great deal…

    in reply to: Cannot stop planning words #30729
    Javier
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    Hi Tarek! First of all, welcome to SAC. I can understand what you say. Sometimes trying to use C-13 without mastering the other 12 can be too much, and we will have to master the other 12 Crutches to first to get there. Why? The reason the Crutches work is becuase when we use a Crutch, we are moving our focus of attention away from that feared/planned word. The moment we do that, we are fluent. Here’s an example: if I ask you to whisper something, you will have to concentrate on the tone of your voice, so that it becomes a whisper. If you do this, you won’t be thinking of the words. The same applies to the rest of the Crutches.
    So, if you use the Crutches as much as possible, 24/7, even when not needed (this is important!), after a while, it will become a habit. A habit of speaking while focusing on Crutches (not on words). So, you will be acquiring a habit of speaking without planning words = C-13!!
    The problem I face with most PWS at the beginning is that they think they are using a Crutch, when they actually aren’t. Exaggeration is key. Since at the begining PWS are not used to speak whispering/modulating/using extreme pronunciation/inserting stops/etc., at the beginning they will be using them very subtly, so they won’t be very effective. Exaggeration is key! You will feel that when you exaggerate the Crutches, your speech sounds weird. It’s all in your head, because you’re not used to it. Record yourself! And you’ll be surprised with the result.
    For example, when I ask a PWS to talk inserting full stops every 1-3 words or so, and I ask them to make these full stops last around 1-2 seconds, the result is that either they are NOT inserting a single full stop, or that these full stops last 0.5 seconds is the best of cases. When I tell them this, they say it’s impossible, for them it’s been like those full stops were extremely long.
    So, you can see that one thing is how we think we talk, and another one is reality.

    Why don’t you come to one of the Crutch Practice sessions? https://speechanxiety.com/crutch-practice-group/ You can learn a lot from these. You will see how other PWS/PWSS use them, learn from them…

    We also have a video course dedicated to the Crutches: https://speechanxiety.com/courses/crutch-mastery-series/

    These 2 are included in the Stuttering Plan membership.

    And of course, private coaching will help you tremendously too.

    I hope to see you at the SAM meetings, or if your time allows, in one of the Crutch Practice sessions that I host 🙂

    Have a great weekend!

    in reply to: Hello from Croatia! I hope to see you here next summer:) #30722
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hi Tino! I’m Javier, I live in Madrid (Spain), and I’m a PWSS and one of the Certified Speech Coaches of SAC. I’m so glad to hear that you’re finding our program helpful.
    Like John said, the videos of coaching sessions are pretty much like being coached by one of us. And you can use the filters to search the most appropiate ones for you.
    Do watch the video lessons, they will help you too, as well as attending to some of the Crutch Practice sessions to practice them in groups of not more than 5 people. You will also learn a lot from the others.
    The SAM meetings (now, on the 1st and 3rd Saturdays of every month at 12h NY time) are also great: you can learn from other PWSS and how they stop stuttering, you can ask questions, and they are very motivational.
    And finally, receiving private coaching will accelerate the process of becoming a PWSS and learning to love to speak in all venues.

    Keep us posted with your progress, and we look forward to seeing you at SAM or the Crutch Practice Sessions (BTW, John’s sessions are very popular, for example: https://speechanxiety.com/crutch-practice-group/)

    in reply to: SAC video coaching #30698
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hi Jason!
    Welcome to SAC, first of all 🙂

    My name is Javier, I live in Spain, and I am a PWSS and one of the Certified Speech Coaches of SAC.

    I’m going to answer your questions below, but before I do so, I would like to say that every time Lee releases an updated version of his book (the latest one, the 4th Edition, is titled “How To Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking”, available on Amazon) his explanations about the Crutches and the rest of the program improve significantly. Having said so:

    1) on the free 3 session coaching -do we get to choose when and who we wish to be coached?
    No, SAC assigns you a Coach based on your time zone, location, and the availability of the coaches.

    2) Crutches -of the 12(13) crutches, which two are easiest, and which two are hardest to learn?
    Good question. I guess it depends on the student. But probably these would be Crutches 4 and 11.
    The reason I chose these two is because, for C-4 you need to really make sure you like the sound or introductory word to the feared word. You must not leave “spaces”. Some PWS need to practice this a bit with a coach or PWSS to really master it.
    About C-11, it is a Crutch that has multiple steps, and you need to master each one, especially the ones about slowing down and inserting full stops every few words. Most PWS are not used to insert full stops every few words. All their lives they havce been trying to rush through their words and say what they need to say as quickly as possible, but this actually makes things worse. So they believe that if they insert full stops every few words, they might stutter even more. It’s actually the opposite. And if I ask them to make these full stops, for example, 2 seconds long, 99% of the times these pauses last , in the best of cases, 0.5 seconds. They are not used to this. So it requires practice. The best way to show and explain these Crutches is through example.

    3) Crutches (again) -just reading the book, which ones are hardest to illustrate without a video?

    I think I have already answered it already, in Q-2.

    Jason, I hope this answers all your questions. If not, please do let me know.

    in reply to: Hello from Texas #30677
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hi Daniel! Welcome to SAC! I’m so glad to know that you have joined us and to see that you seem to be taking this seriously. Awesome!

    Some tips:

    * Make stop stuttering your #1, above anything else.
    * Use the Crutches every time you talk, even if you don’t need them to speak fluently. See it as training. You need to practice to master them, and therefore use them more easily when needed.
    * Mind training. Give yourself at least 2 daily mind training treatments daily, like Lee suggests in his books. It might take you a while until you start feeling the effects of these treatments, but they do show up. It works. It took me around 2-4 weeks to feel the effects of my self-hypnosis treatments, for example.
    * Read aloud at least 1h/day. Do it slowly, without rushing, passionately, like a storyteller would do, and use the Crutches too. You must hear fluency in massive amounts (and not dysfluency) to stop stuttering. That is why reading aloud and speaking in your stutter-free zones is so important.

    Come to the SAM meetings and the Crutch Practice Sessions, they will surely help you!

    I can’t give you any more specific advice until we meet and I hear you speak (hopefully very soon).

    If you have any questions, let me know.

    We look forward to hearing about your progress!!

    in reply to: Hey y’all from Texas! #30641
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hi Kristi. The SAM meetings last 1 hour, although if you come 30 minutes earlier, we will be in a kind of hang-out and you can talk with us, including Lee Lovett, in a more informal environment. I highly recommend it.

    About the book, the second edition is from 2017-2018, I’m not sure now. I recommend you to AT LEAST read the 3rd edition (available on SAC in the Stuttering membership), which is 250 pages longer, and x2 as better. A few weeks ago, Lee released the 4th Edition of this book, which is an even better and improved version. Currently, this book is only available on Amazon:

    The thing is, we are continuously learning and improving our methods, that is why we keep updating this manual to stop stuttering.

    I hope to see you on Saturday!

    in reply to: Hey y’all from Texas! #30638
    Javier
    Moderator

    Hi Kristi!! Welcome to SAC! My name is Javier, I live in Spain, and I’m one of the Certified Speech Coaches of SAC. I totally understand you. I can’t tell how many times I avoided talking, reading aloud, interacting with other people, etc. But not any more. You can stop stuttering, just like I and many others have done.
    And you can do the same! Our methods work, as you can see from our Success Stories, the +1500 videos of coaching sessions, and even if you attend, for example, to this Saturday’s SAM meeting (10am NY time). You can find more about how to attend to these meetings if you click on “Community” and then to “Speech & social Club”, or simply using this link: https://speechanxiety.com/speech-club/.
    It’d be great to see you there this Saturday!

    Have you already read Lee’s book, “How To Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking”? Note that this is the latest edition, the 4th one, released only a few weeks ago, of his “Stuttering & Anxiety Self-cures” book.

    in reply to: Throat Tension While speaking #30594
    Javier
    Moderator

    you’re welcome!! I hope to see you this Saturday at the SAM meeting!

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